Wednesday, February 13, 2013


Someone asked me recently to post the wedding vows Dusty and I spoke that I based the Sidhe Binding Vows on. Well, today I finally managed to dig them up.

So I took from two parts of our wedding and crafted the Binding Vows by taking the best parts of both.

The exchange of rings:

With this ring, I give you my promise that from this day forward you shall not walk alone. May my heart be your shelter and my arms be your home. May we walk together through all things. May you feel deeply loved, for indeed you are. With this ring, I give you my heart.

And our hand-fasting vows:

You cannot possess me, for I belong to myself. And now for the rest of our lives, I give you that which is mine to give. You cannot command me, for I am a free person. But I shall serve you in all the ways that you require, and the honeycomb will taste sweeter coming from my hand. I pledge to you that yours will be the name I shall whisper at the close of each day and the eyes into which I will smile in the morning. I pledge to you my living and my dying, each equally in your care. I shall be a shield for your back and you for mine. I shall not slander you nor you me. I shall honor you above all others, and when we quarrel, we shall do so in private and tell no strangers our grievances. This is my wedding vow to you. This is the marriage of equals.

We loved our vows, and when it came time to write the Sidhe binding, I could think of no other words that would work as well as these.

I vow that from this day forward you shall not walk alone.
My strength is your protection
My heart is your shelter
And my arms are your home.
I shall serve you in those ways you require
I pledge to you my living and my dying, each equally in your care
Yours is the name I whisper at the close of each day and the eyes into which I smile each morning.
I give you all that is mine to give.
My heart and my soul I pledge to you
You are my Chosen One.
You are my Mate
You are bound to me for eternity.

And, fifteen years later, we still smile at each other every morning and say I love you every night.

Happy Valentine's Day, love.

P.S.: Our vows were written originally by Journeys of the Heart, the officiants of our wedding.


Teena M. said...

wow that was wonderful. I love the binding ceremony in The Gray Court Series and always wondered what inspired you to write such moving words. Now I know it was felt deep in your heart for your treasured love that you share with your Dusty.. Thank you for sharing your wedding vows with us your fans.

e_bookpushers said...

Those are just wonderful to read. Thank you so much for sharing them!

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